This Is Why I Live In The City

From an article titled, “Confessions of An Empty Nester” about empty nesters leaving the anonymous suburbs to the city, for a better life:

Now, we stand face-to-face with people in our building’s elevators, at our corner hangouts, and on the sidewalks. We chitchat and pet our neighbors’ dogs. We exchange “good mornings” with the people we pass everyday on our way to work. We’ve developed friendships with several proprietors and servers at our favorite restaurants.

I couldn’t agree with this article more. City life is for me, yo. I couldn’t imagine living anywhere else.

Thanks for the link.

7 Responses to “This Is Why I Live In The City”

  • I don’t understand why I have noticed a sudden influx of anti-suburban sentiment running rampant amongst my friends. Makes me sad, but I guess I should sit back and realize why I take such offense. Is it because it’s true? Or because deep down I really love it and don’t think I should…

  • Your sentiment about the ‘burbs parallels (however, in reverse) my dislike for Bjork’s music. Everyone is always so surprised and says, “Wow, I would think with your eclectic tastes you’d like her.” It’s the worst insult to me, ever. Sorry, kinda unrelated – I know, but what you wrote just reminded me of that.

    The bottom line is one lives where one feels most comfortable. And you shouldn’t feel bad about it.

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  • *sigh* I miss Charles Village…

  • I grew up in a small town, in walking distance of school, church, the grocery and just about everything else. Living in DC reminds me a lot of my neighborhood as kid, I have more community here than I ever had living in the suburbs. Thanks for the great link!

  • When I lived in the city (fairly briefly), I didn’t get that sense of community. Could have been where we lived, but people were always busy heading elsewhere, doing their own thing, happy to steal your cab from you, etc. We’re fairly social, but couldn’t find a good niche in city living. Living out in the suburbs (and in the midwest, at that), I’ve found a lot more community. Backyard BBQs, camping weekends, hanging out at friends and neighbors houses, etc. Sure, you can’t walk everywhere, but with two kids under 5, I can’t walk everywhere anyway.

    I think it has a lot less to do with where you are than who you’re with. Could just be that I’ve found a lot more liked minded folks in the suburbs to hang with, and just didn’t gel with the city folks. Could be that I like not sharing walls with people so I can crank my amp to 10 and not worry about waking the neighbors. (The kids are used to it.) In any event, we all find our equilibrium.

    BTW, Bjork rocks. Sugarcubes, too. But I get the same way about Family Guy. People keep telling me I should love Family Guy, and I then kick those people as hard as I can in the scrotum. If they’re women, I kick their little man-children in the scrotum. The show makes we want to commit unspeakable acts to small mammals.

  • As a quick post script, the article is almost less about city living than it is about living without kids. Pre-kids, we lived this kind of life in the suburbs… knew all of our local vendors, waiters, etc.
    Having kids means you can’t afford to do that any more. (I hope someone gave you guys that lecture. Kids cost a lot of money, so less eating out. 🙂
    But as I see it, the lifestyle he’s talking about isn’t incompatible with the suburbs at all. Your relationship with the guy who pours your coffee isn’t any less real because you drove there.

    (Devil’s Advocate question: Is it less real because it’s at Starbucks than a mom-and-pop place?)

  • True about the kid factor. It’s all about a balance and what’s important to you. But it was more than just that.

    I think what spoke to me was how impersonal it can be to live in the burbs. Case in point: I was at my parents house this weekend. While walking the dog, I passed by three other dog walkers. I nodded my head and said HI to each one of them. Not one returned the favor. In the city, it’s a given. In the city people are outside. They walk to places and communicate. I feel in the burbs people tend to live in bubbles either inside their houses or their cars.

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