Today’s post is from one of my oldest and dearest friends: Karin. She rocks. We don’t necessarily agree on all aspects of life, but we get along great. My quam with most people these days is they don’t have opinions. Fuck that P.C. shit. Say what you mean and have a damn good opinion on it. That is just my 5 cents. Karin has more than a helping of opinions and I so appreciate it. Up the Revolution and check out her webpage too: http://www.geocities.com/krunett/
So, I went home for Thanksgiving and got to see a bunch of people I hadnâ€™t seen in quite a long time. These kids are all between 1 and 3 years younger than I am and they were always really fun to hang out with my freshman/sophomore year of college. But most of them were â€œfun friends.â€ They couldn’tâ€™t and wouldn’tâ€™t be people I would be able to turn to for moral support. We did cool stuff like go to Monster Truck Rally’s and go to crazy metal shows. But they also would do shit that embarrassed the hell out of me like yelling â€œnice assâ€ every time they passed a jogger (usually male) on the street. I got tired of driving around with them when they went through the whole â€œitâ€™s cool to be nakedâ€ period. There came a time where I just didnâ€™t want to be a part of their lives anymore and I felt like I outgrew them.
When I hung out with all these kids (mostly males) they were all straight-edge. For me it was a huge step to go from hanging out with mostly potheads to hanging out with people who totally 100% shared what I was into. They were the definition of â€œItâ€™s OK not to drink.â€ Well, they got to college and as the saying goes they maintained â€œtrue tillâ€™ college.â€ That is one of the reasons I found myself not wanting to call any of them when I was home. I knew they started drinking and doing other stuff and I knew I wouldnâ€™t deal well being around it. I can accept moderation, but it did notâ€™t seem like many of them they were into any sense of that word.
Itâ€™s not as easy as saying â€œthose kids sold out.â€ Itâ€™s deeper than that to me. These were people that were so into being different, so not into what everyone was doing and I guess it became too hard to resist the mainstream. I can see someone going from straight-edge to occasionally drinking, I cannot see, however, someone going from straight-edge to all out lush. It bothers me. Out of 10 of those kids who were straight-edge, ZERO of them maintained it. It is sad, I canâ€™t find any other word to describe it, maybe â€œtypicalâ€ fits better?
The only reason I am bringing this up is because I went to see one of them (the only one I still have totally contact with, please donâ€™t get mad if you read this JD!!) and we ended up going over to this guys house. If I had known it was going to be a party, there is no way I would have gone over there. I thought it was just going to be people hanging out. I guess their hanging out now includes drinking a fuck of a lot of beer and smoking a J. Those kids used to get together, weâ€™d do crazy shit and it would be fun. Now their crazy shit involves drinking lots of beer and driving home. Totally not fucking smart and I thought theyâ€™d be above it. It was not a comfortable situation and believe me, if my other non-sober friend had driven we would have been out of there a lot sooner.
I‘m not saying these people are bad seeds. The total opposite. They are really nice people. They are fun to talk to and have a lot of crazy stories, but hanging out with them when they are all drinking is something I just know I can’t tolerate in my life. Maybe next time we’ll just have dinner or something, something safe, something escapable.
I donâ€™t know about you guys, but itâ€™s not super-fun watching people get drunk. Especially people you respected so much for in the past for never engaging in that activity and being above that poison. And I know people change, but the fact that not even one of them could maintain a drug-free lifestyle makes me believe they never cared about it in the first place. What a fucking bummer of a holiday.