Who’s Late? We’re Late! And Proud!

So we’re allegedly late. It seems to be making some members of our family anxious. We’re just simply enjoying every moment of this pregnancy. Luckily Emily and the baby are completely healthy and we’re progressing nicely!

All this has made us ask our family about when we were born in relation to our due date. It seems most of us were born 1-2 weeks late. Em was even born 16 days late. And the statistic is only 4% of babies are born on their scheduled due date. There ya go. That’s science!

So here’s a poll to see where OMers stand.


9 Responses to “Who’s Late? We’re Late! And Proud!”

  • Back in the day, they tended to let kids go later than the due date more than now. The rush nowadays is mostly due to liability and saftety issues. (More fun with the for-better-or-worse medicalization of birthing and all.) The longer the pregnancy, the bigger the baby, and the bigger the baby, the more likely there will be size related issues. (i.e. head too big for the chute, cord wrapping due to turning in too tight womb, etc.) The thinking goes that pretty much everything baby related is easier to treat once the munchkins are breathing air rather than aminotic fluid.

    There’s some interesting reading re: evolution of the birthing process that points to the idea that we’re really born about a trimester early anyway. Most of the first trimester would be better served in the womb. The reason we don’t do so is that our frickin’ heads are so big that we’d never fit out of the womb if we were in there 12 months. Going back way in the day, this is thought to be a major reason we beat out the Cro Magnons in the evolutionary battle.
    Most of the really effective baby calming techniques for the first 3 months deal with replicating the womb: shushing (sound of blood rushing around the baby), swaddling (tight environment of womb), bouncing (walking around in belly), etc.

    In any event, enjoy it. You’re in the last precious days of setting your own sleep schedules and low decibal evenings. 🙂

  • I hear you about treating the baby once the baby is out. But that’s also assuming something is wrong and the majority of the time nothing is wrong especially in a low-risk birth.

    The whole idea of a doctor saying a baby’s head is simply too big is horse manure. What I find fascinating is that many of the doctors forget that baby’s heads mold to the birth canal and vagina’s are capable of serious stretching especially when you practice ahead of time. Not to mention the natural hormones that are released to spread the hips during labor.

    I think a lot of the time, if the baby is late it’s for a reason. It’s just simply not time. Sadly the major medical community doesn’t see this.

    But yeah, John you hit it right on. It’s all about liability and avoiding lawsuits with mainstream medical doctors, be it an OBGYN or whatever. It’s too bad people feel more comfortable when a doctor intervenes rather than letting nature run it’s course for normal healthy births.

  • don’t sweat it. i was due in early december and wasn’t born until january – practically 10 months of pregnancy.

    and look how perfect i turned out. 🙂 🙂

  • Quick clarification… I didn’t mean to type that the head was too big to pop out. Check out the weird pics of the way the skull deforms itself. That’s why naturally born kids all look like coneheads. 🙂
    There are other size related issues, but generally sliding out isn’t one of them.

    For timing, everyone has their comfort level. We opted to be induced with our first due to several risk factors, and we felt the safety issues outweighed the benefits of waiting. That decision point is different for everyone. (With the second one, we just scheduled the C-section ahead of time thanks to some key risk factors.)

    Once the kid is out, it doesn’t matter either way. I’ve read stuff from a bunch of sides, but I don’t think kids care much how they enter the world. 🙂

  • Okay, here is an odd thing. I look EXACTLY like my dad. Well, exactly like my dad when he was 15 before facial hair (thank gd since I’m a female) but still remarkably similar. So much so that during parents’ weekend 4 months into college (when EVERY freshman at my huge state university has parents driving up to the dorms – and mine housed 975), a new friend of mine saw my dad while she was outside smoking (she had never even seen a picture) and greeted him by saying hello and that he must be Liore’s dad and offered to show him to my room. My sister looks just like my mom. We literally have the body type of that side of the family as well. (sigh)

    As we figured out when my little sister visited me in college…

    My sister was born exactly 9 month and 17 days after my mother’s birthday.

    I was born exactly 9 months and 17 days after my father’s birthday.

    WEIRD right? We called my parents immediately, who said we were strange and didn’t think anything of it. My sister and I find it odd that we are both 9 months and 17 days after the birthday of the parent we look almost exactly like.

    Just another random occurrence? A higher power? Or fate?

    Either way, regardless of your baby’s relationship to either birthday, I hope you have a beautiful and healthy child. 🙂

  • my first baby was a week late… my second was 10 days early… i don’t tell anyone my due date because it’s really just a guess. and as my first midwife told me, the head is not the largest part to give birth to… it’s the shoulders. =) can’t wait to hear about and see your new baby!

  • I think if there was anything to the “we must induce b/c this baby’s going to be too big” thing, then the rate of episiotomies, tearing and c-sections would have gone down with the increase in inductions. But in fact, the c-section rate has gone up. You’re statistically more likely to have a c-section if you’re induced and you’re more likely to tear or need an episiotomy b/c of the strength and intensity of the induced contractions. Plus the weight that the baby puts on at the end of a pregnancy is mostly fat, not a particularly difficult thing to pass through the birth canal, like skull bones and shoulders.

    I do believe there are valid medical reasons to induce, but I think that’s the minority of cases. Too often, doctors enforce a cut-off date that has nothing to do with the actual circumstances of the pregnancy in question, but rather statistical averages.

  • indeed, emily! i’m with you and mat on all of it.

  • Asked Mom and was surprised to learn I was three weeks late. Makes me feel a little better about not being in any rush for my kid to show up.

    As far as “regular sleep patterns” go — neither my wife nor I has had a regular sleep pattern for several months. Baby wakes her up kicking, she wakes me up. I don’t think regular sleep patterns will return for another dozen years.

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